Wrong sex practices during pregnancy can lead to miscarriages. So make yourself aware. One way to do it is to read this post carefully.

It tells you how to have safe and comfortable sexual intercourse during your pregnancy, and what positions to adopt that will not harm the pregnancy and the growing fetus inside the womb.

But, there are more things than just safe and comfortable positions.

You should know whether it is safe to have sex during pregnancy and the precautions and contraindications of having sex when pregnant. Can it harm the baby? The earlier post does just that. Go through it.

Sexual feelings of the pregnant woman during the three trimesters

The urge to have or not have sex varies during the three trimesters of pregnancies.

During First trimester

During the first trimester (1st three months), fatigue, nausea, morning sickness, and hormonal changes can lower your sexual appetite.

Second trimester

During the second trimester, there is an increase in the woman’s blood volume. This causes additional blood flow to your sexual organs and the breasts. The clitoris gets engorged with blood making it more sensitive to touch. This may cause an increased desire for sex.

The increased desire for sex continues well into the 6th and 7th months.

Third trimester

The third trimester somewhat reduces the sex urge due to back pain, weight gain, and the increasing apprehension of the oncoming labor. Again, becoming self-conscious about the weight gain and increased abdominal girth may dampen your urge.

The lack of desire is more pronounced during the 8th and 9th months.

Is anal sex okay during pregnancy?

Avoid anal sex. Pregnancy can cause hemorrhoids (piles) due to the increased pressure the growing uterus exerts on the abdominal veins. This builds up back pressure and hemorrhoids can develop.

Secondly, anal sex followed by vaginal sex can introduce bacteria from the anal canal into the vagina, which can lead to an infection that can travel to the uterus.

Thirdly, during pregnancy, the enlarged uterus is in very close proximity to the rectum. A six-inch penis introduced into the anus and the rectum can tap the uterus from behind.

What about oral sex?

Oral sex is okay, provided the man does not blow air into the vagina for fear of an air bubble gaining entry into an artery in the vagina. This air bubble can travel as an air embolus and block the blood supply to an organ. This can become a life-threatening situation.

Just plain oral sex can help sexually stimulate the pregnant woman because pregnancy does increase blood flow to her pelvic parts including the clitoris. An engorged clitoris is very sensitive to stimulation.

Best and more importantly, safe sex positions during pregnancy

You can follow the sex positions described below throughout pregnancy in all three trimesters.

Safe and comfortable vaginal sex positions have been advised to avoid any trauma to the pregnant woman’s abdomen and the growing fetus within.

These positions should also ensure comfort to both partners so that sex is enjoyed by both. You could devise your own position too, provided the abdomen of the pregnant woman is not pressed and vigorously moved.

And you can have sex as often as you like as long as the pregnancy is progressing normally. Except that, the man should exercise caution when thrusting and go easy on the force. That said, cuddling up and showing affection by both partners to each other is a good way to start.

  • Woman on top position. This probably gives the most satisfaction to the woman. She is in total control and can allow for the depth of the penetration she is comfortable with.
  • Side by side. This is not the traditional side-by-side position with the partners facing each other. This position involves the male partner facing the woman from behind. He penetrates the woman between the thighs from behind thereby not putting any pressure on her abdomen. Penetration is less and women find this very comfortable. This position is referred to as spooning because it is similar to two spoons snugly fitting into each other when placed upon each other. Avoid lying on the right side especially during the later months of pregnancy because that can put pressure on the liver. Secondly, sleeping on the left side position allows for more supply of blood and nutrients to the placenta.
  • Hands and knees position. In this position, the woman is on her hands and knees. The man stands behind her on his knees on the bed or may stand on the floor on his feet with the woman kneeling on the edge of the bed. He enters the vagina from behind. This is referred to as the doggy position.
  • Lying on the edge of the bed. In this position, the woman lies on her back at the edge of the bed with her legs spread and feet resting on the edge of the bed. The man penetrates her by standing on the floor thereby putting no pressure on the woman’s abdomen.
  • Sitting down position. In this posture, the man sits on a sturdy chair and the woman sits on his lap with her back to him. Here too, there is no pressure on the pregnant abdomen, and the woman can control the depth of the penetration.

Positions to avoid

  • Avoid the missionary (man up) position for fear of pressing the bulging abdomen from the time you have realized you are pregnant till labor.
  • Avoid positions such as turtle that facilitate deep penetration, especially during the third trimester.

When to avoid unprotected sex during pregnancy?

Another important fact to remember is that genital herpes is an extremely rampant viral genital infection.

According to the World Health Organization, an estimated two-thirds of the global population between the ages of 15-49 years has a herpes virus infection.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about half the population of the United States between the ages of 14 and 49 has herpes.

In spite of this rampant presence, stats provided by herpes.org.nz, mention that less than 0.1% of babies born in the United States each year are infected by neonatal herpes.

At the same time, what you should know is that neonatal herpes can cause eye or throat infections, central nervous system damage, mental retardation, or rarely even death of the baby.

If the male partner has genital herpes, you should avoid having sex whenever he has an acute herpes outbreak. At other times, when he has no symptoms he must use a condom.